Get On The Right Bus (1)

......if you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.

In a bid to get to work on time, Zoey jumped onto the first available bust at the Bus Park. She had woken up 30 minutes later than usual that Monday morning and was certain that she would miss her 7.30am resumption deadline if she does not attach herself to a moving bus right away. She could not care less that the one she had boarded wold not take her normal route which was shorter and faster; all she wanted at that moment was to be on a moving bus!

45 minutes later, the driver announced that he would be turning back two stops away from her normal stop. Hence, she became stranded as she found herself in an unfamiliar environment. It took another 20 minutes to gather herself and locate another bus that would take her to where she was going, but at this point, she had lost so much time. She eventually arrived at work at 8.10am, and spent the rest of the day lamenting the woes that befell her that morning.

What went wrong? She boarded a bus on time, and yet was late to work.

In truth, she did everything right except that she that the bus she boarded was not the right one. A little more focus and patience would have gotten her to the office not only earlier, but more composed that morning!

In life, we often found ourselves in a hurry, perhaps because we suddenly wake up to realise that time had passed us by, and we need a lot of catching up to do. We are a few years behind the time we should have gotten married; we should have gotten a job 5 years earlier; we should have built that mansion 3 years back; we should have had that baby 6 years ago! Because of this time lag,, it is natural for us to want to rush things just to get to that destination we felt we should have been earlier, and so we accept anything that comes our way so long as there is a promise to get us there.

It is not a problem for anyone to run late. The question is “is the bus we’re on is going in the right direction?”.

At the beginning of this year, many of us wrote New Year resolutions as usual.

These resolutions represent the destination we intend to get to at the end of the year. But again, I ask; are you on the right bus,? Will the bus you’re on right now get you to that destination at the end of this year? Will your present actions and habits get you the desired results? What do you feed your mind with daily?

...to be continued.

Towards Personal Effectiveness II

The power of consistency

... It is not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It is what we do consistently – Anthony Robbins


The word consistency to the contemporary mind might readily be interpreted to mean rigidity, stagnancy and resistance to change. However, without consistency in one’s personal life, you might find yourself readily tossed here and there by the wind of different concepts that evolve on a daily basis. The key to remaining focused and achieving one’s life goals is being consistent in the underlying principles that shape your thoughts and beliefs.


Your Mission Statement will help you to focus on your goal in life. It is never too early and never too late to write one, that is, if you do not yet have one. In fact, the earlier you determine your life’s mission, the better, as it will help you to avoid living a life of trial and error. A standard personal mission statement should tell you where you ought to be in terms of career, relationship/family, social status, financial capacity etc at a particular point in time. It should also tell you what your ultimate life goal is; how you want to conclude your life. Mind you, your mission statement is not a rigid document. While it tells you where you should be and when, the question of ‘how’ is one that you can answer in more than one ways (depending on your level of creativity).


Establishing a Personal Identity for yourself early in life will help you to remain true to who you are irrespective of the time or circumstances. It all boils down to the same idea of living a principled life. Your personal identity should be established on a given set of life principles on which your thoughts and actions are anchored. For instance, if you believe in the principle of fairness (treating everyone with respect irrespective of their age, intellectual capacity or social status), you would not look down on those who are not as intelligent as you are – no matter how dumb they may act on certain occasions.


You can not be half here and half there. You have to understand importance of being in one place at a time, and standing for one thing in particular. You can not afford not to take sides. In any given situation, you must form an opinion, and be bold enough to make it known to everyone that cares to listen. Remember, the most important thing is for you to be consistent in your opinion in whatever given situation you are in, such that, over time, without having to ask you, people will be able to guess what your take will be on a particular situation. Consistency in words and actions builds a reputation for you and earns you respect with people. It makes people look up to you as a leader (provided your decisions are grounded on principles and not sentiments). Remember the popular saying: if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. If you do not have a ground to stand on, other people will use you to channel their own opinions (at your own detriment!).


Be careful not to contradict yourself because you can’t be somewhere where you are not. What ever it is you stand for, be sure to confidently defend it irrespective of the opinions of others. When you contradict yourself, people tend to lose faith and confidence in you, and might find it difficult to entrust you with responsibilities of any kind. Before you speak on any subject and/or issue, think twice about what you are about to say; about it’s impact and/or consequences on those concerned and the situation on ground. You need to be very sure before you open your mouth so that you don’t have to counter yourself later.


The constantly evolving world of the 21st century has made achieving one’s life goals seem like shooting at a moving target, which requires a high level alertness, swiftness as well as constant adaptation to the demands of the times. In achieving this, you have to be constantly on your feet, adapting your life’s mission statement to the demands of the times. Being grounded in solid principles will help you to maintain your identity irrespective of the time and season.